Why are all the tv shows and movies now filled with scenes of couples where sleeping together is not only acceptable but it is expected?
Our culture has come so far from the days of the early 1950’s when Lucy and Ricky didn’t even share a bed when it came to their on-tv romance. Gone are the days when chastity was upheld and even the world understood that some things are not meant to be displayed all over tv.
There are some things that shouldn’t be on display for everyone to see and the main one is sex.
There is one reason why the world does not value sex until marriage…
The One Main Reason It Does Not Value Sex Until Marriage
Our world and culture loudly tells you that it is all about what you want when you want it. It throws caution to the wind and says, “Just do whatever makes you feel good.” Don’t think about the repercussions or the consequences, but just do whatever in the moment. Just stay in the present and don’t think beyond the now.
The enemy will try and do everything that he can to take what God has called good and twist it into something completely different. If God says to wait until marriage to have sex and to practice sexual purity before marriage, then the enemy will twist and contort God’s view and give you the complete opposite.
The enemy’s way may look all put together and come all wrapped in a pretty bow but the truth is…
It leaves you with consequences that you had no idea were coming your way.
It causes you to rush into decisions that you may regret just because it makes you feel good.
It leaves you dry and empty because you have to keep trying to find fulfillment in sex.
There Is Much More To Just Waiting For Marriage To Have Sex
We are called to be different than the world. Set apart. To be in the world but not of it.
God called us to be different for a reason.
God called us to be set apart for a purpose.
We spend so much time trying to be just like the world when we need to refocus our mind on being different. If the world’s motto is it’s all about what you want when you want it, then we as believers need to be different on this very aspect.
Even though sexual purity isn’t esteemed by the culture and even though it is becoming more and more difficult, we need to uphold our own sexuality and save the beauty of sex for marriage.
Reasons to Save Sex for Marriage
There are so many reasons to wait until marriage to have sex but one of the ones that has helped me to refocus my view on why I am waiting to have sex until marriage is that I want to be as pure as possible on my wedding day. I want to have a clean slate. A baggage that is empty of sexual experiences.
You and I can learn a lot through watching other go through life experiences. I have had friends who gave away their virginity at an early age and I have witnessed friends who saved themselves until marriage. There is just something that when you see friends who have held out for their future husbands and have done things God’s way that you just see the purity shine so brightly in their lives!
God’s design for sex was that it would be saved until marriage. He didn’t say this because He doesn’t wants to punish us. Not at all! He truly wants the best for you and His best for you is sex within the confines of marriage.
When you save sex for marriage, you don’t have to worry about the possibility of becoming pregnant out of wedlock or getting STD’s. There are so many negative effects when we chose to go outside of the will of God and sex outside of marriage is one of those areas. There is complete security and trust when you save yourself for marriage!
Laying A Foundation of Purity Starts Before Marriage
If you start laying a foundation of purity, including sexual purity, before you are married then it will carry into your marriage as well.
David wrote in Psalm 119:9 that when we live according to God’s word then we can keep our ways pure. I love David’s words in that verse because it is so simple. If we live according to God’s word and his standards, then we will follow the desires that He as for us; this includes valuing saving yourself until marriage. Choose today to live in purity. Be different than the world and let others see that there is something different inside of you!
Darling, if you haven’t saved yourself for marriage it is never too late to start. Make a choice today to turn that part of your life around and wait to have sex until you are married. Ask God to help you change the choices you have made in the past and allow Him to give you a brand new start.
Darling, want to challenge you to live a life of purity. To be different than the world and to see yourself as valued, loved, and esteemed. I pray that you don’t just throw caution to the wind that you would see your sexuality as a gift and that you would do all that you can to save that gift for your marriage.