Mr. Right sure is taking his sweet, precious time. Here you are left here with out him and you are all ready to become Mrs. Right. Where has he disappeared to? What is taking him so long? You think you just can’t wait for him any longer until He tells you wait. It’s not the right time yet. You may think you are all ready; your ducks are all in a row. Well, maybe not all in a row but they are all in the same pond. How much longer until it’s your turn to get married?
I mean you didn’t spend thousands upon thousands of dollars for your college degree only to graduate without your MRS degree in wifehood. Pintrest boards overflowing to the brim with ideas for your winter wonderland wedding only to be put on the back burner because there is no man in sight. So what’s a girl to do while she is waiting?
When Will It Be My Turn?
Do you ever feel like you will never get married because you are always the friend without a boyfriend? You are always the bridesmaid with pink mermaid gown or turquoise A-line dress among the selection of dresses in your closet and never the bride. Just when you think you have had it with being the one on the stage but not saying the vows to promise to love him through better or worse, your bestie calls you while excitedly exclaiming details all about her recent proposal. Will you be her maid of honor?; is the question she asks you next. You plaster a fake smile on your face as you nod your head yes. As you step into the bridesmaid dress on her wedding day and you try to be happy for it, it doesn’t help that there is no light at the end of the tunnel for you
I have never been a bridesmaid but I have been the one with the fake smile on my face as I braved another wedding alone. I wish I could say that all t I needed to be happy for them was to know that my turn would come soon but it isn’t going to. I wish that I could say that being happy for them is like throwing caption to the wind but it isn’t.
Contentment is not the issue for me. Singleness is something that I am okay with but it’s much more than that. There is a deep longing in my heart to be married. But with the more weddings I attend, the more I realize my dream is slowly fading. Ever gone to the restroom during the first dance because you couldn’t hold back the tears of thinking you wish you could be the one dancing to your song? Yep! I have been there. I’ve had those lonely days where I just don’t think that he will ever come or that it will never be my turn.
When It Seems Like You Will Always Be Single
While you may be the one who is always without the boyfriend and it seems like you will never get married, all that I can tell you is that you have no idea why God is placing you in a season of singleness right now. I know it would be easier to just get any guy so you can say you have a boyfriend or settle for a guy who isn’t right for you. I know it is easier to be with someone than to be reminded that you are alone while everyone else is on their dates. Darling, I know it is hard to wait when you are always the one without the boyfriend, but marriage is for life and it is not something to just throwing caution to the wind.
While the season of always being the one without the boyfriend may seem like it will last forever, I can tell you that it won’t.
God has a plan for your life but it is different than everyone’s around you. Darling, don’t compare your journey to everyone else’s. If you do all you are left is a heart that is full of sadness and discontentment because you don’t have what she has. The grass always appears greener on the other side but you have no idea what she is really going through. If instagram is causing you to compare yourself with her, then take some time off of social media. If you are lonely on a Friday night because everyone else has a date, then find another single girl friend and have a girls night (yes, put your yoga pants on, buy your favorite ice cream, and watch a movie.)
Remaining Hopeful When Your Heart Is Weary
The verses that has held my heart together just when I thought it would break into a million pieces are found Psalm 27:13-14 which says, “I remain confident of this: I will see the goodness of the Lord in the land of the living. Wait for the Lord; be strong and take heart and wait for the Lord” (NIV).
In fact, it is on the screen saver of my phone and each time I go to call someone or check the time on my phone, it is an ever-present reminder that He at work in my life and that I just need to wait. My heart will remain confident that it will one day be my turn. That one day I will be the one with the bridesmaid who are all there to support me in my marriage. I will take heart and wait for the Lord to do His thing in His timing. I will not run ahead but I will wait, knowing that I will see His goodness at work in my life.
Darling, it may seem like you will forever be single but just keep praying and ask the Lord to bless you right where you are. Ask him to help you be content in the season he has placed you. Ask Him to surround your life with friends who understand what you are going through. But most importantly, never forget that God is at work and that you will get to see His goodness in your life. So, Darling, take heart and wait for the Lord. Continue being strong and allow God to work and move in your life in ways that you could have never imaged!