After experiencing my first heartbreak at age seventeen, I would tell my mom how I wished I could go to sleep and just wake up in five years and see whom I was married to. Or I would explain how much easier it would be if I just knew that I was supposed to marry Joe from California. But that is just not how life’s works, is it? Well, here I am six years later and I still have no prospect of a husband in sight but I think that is all the Lord’s doing. I was far too focused on just wanting to know who I was going to marry so that I could save myself from all of the heartache I had experienced from previous relationships. However, that is the beauty of the Lord’s working in my life.
Think about this for a moment. Suppose you had a young man approach you in the courtyard after church. After a short introduction, he then proceeds to explain how the Lord told him that he was supposed to marry you. What would your first reaction be? I would be thoroughly creeped out and I would think that this man was using “The Lord” to get into a relationship with me. The second word that comes into my mind is stalker! What makes him think that the Lord would tell him who he is supposed to marry when we have never even met or the fact that I have no idea who this man is?
When All You Want Is Instant
Do you remember when you would drive through McDonalds and there would be a timer going from the minute you ordered until you received your takeout food? McDonald’s prided themselves on being fast enough to serve you in under one minute or your food would be free. I don’t know if that is something to pride yourself in but if you are looking to get fast food, then you happened on the right place for almost instant food.
Everything thing is instant. Instant coffee, fast food, instagram, the list could go on and on. We live in a society and a culture that tells us that we not only need it but we need it now! There is little waiting that we have to do in life expect well, when we have to wait. God does not move in the instant things but He moves in His timing and this is the same with relationships.
Why We Need To Wait For A Relationship
Relationships can be fun and exciting! But, our anticipation of just wanting to know who to marry, when we should marry, and we want to know all of these things right now! We don’t want to wait for the right man to come along or for the Lord to bring the man in His timing but rather we want it right now. We don’t want to wait for God to write our love story, instead, we want to take the pen and write it all on our own. Well, we may want God to write His love story on our heart and lives but we are not willing to wait for Him to work.
God will guide you to the right person at the right time. There will be nothing you can do to speed up the process or slow it down in anyway. He is the one who is in control of every aspect of our lives so then why would He not be in control of this area as well. It is easy to trust Him to bring you Mr. Right when everything is falling in to place while you are still young but as the years begin to pass and you are still single, it gets more and more difficult to trust Him. As much as you want to pull the pen from His grasp, Darling, let Him have it and work His way.
Finding Mr. Right In The Right Timing
I am still trusting God to write my love story and as I wait for God to bring Mr. Right along, I am growing in Christ and flourishing in my walk. Just because your future husband is yet to be seen, that doesn’t mean that God is working behind the scenes on stories that have yet to be written. Don’t lose hope in God writing your love story that you rush ahead of His timing and write your own story. I would love to know when I was going to get married, how I was getting married, who the man I am to marry is, and how it is all going to happen but the truth is that if I knew all of that information then there would be no need to trust God. Trusting God is a journey and it doesn’t just happen overnight but through day after day, week after week, season after season, and trial after trial. It takes a heart that is fully surrendered to Him so that He can lead you to the person he has for you. It takes a willing heart, ears that listening, and a life that will follow where ever the Lord leads.
So, in essence, only God knows whom you will marry, when you will marry him, and how you and your future husband will meet, and whom you will marry. Don’t be afraid to trust a future that you do not know to a God who knows all things! He is more than capable to care for you in every single area and this is no different than the other areas. He has never failed to be faithful and he will never fail you now. Darling, trust Him and His timing. Let go and allow God to move!