Have you noticed that what you wear determines the attention you will receive? Do you see the way that people interact with you based on what you wear that day?
The other day while I was shopping a local store, I overheard a few girls exclaiming how hot this girl looked in this top and the other girl’s legs looked hot in those shorts. I can only imagine the comments they would be getting from guys described how “hot” they looked.
The first thing that comes into my mind when a girl is described as “hot” is that she is sexy, or productive in how she dresses or carries herself. I would cringe if a passing guy were to describe me as “hot.” The only thing they notice when they say the word “hot” is that they are only noticing my body, not who I am. I want to be noticed by my personality, for being a Christian (Christ-follower), or for the joy that Christ has given me.
When the word “hot” is said it is used to only describe my physical beauty. I want people to notice me for my inward beauty. Paul describes this perfectly for us as women of the Lord in 1 Peter 3:3-4; “Do not let your adornment be merely outward—arranging the hair, wearing gold, or putting on fine apparel— rather let it be the hidden person of the heart, with the incorruptible beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is very precious in the sight of God.”
Let’s dissect verse 3 first. Paul illustrates a woman in verse three that is more concerned with what others think of her, how she looks, and how she measures up on the attractiveness scale. This women is focusing on the inward beauty, she is pouring her time into her outward beauty. Proverbs 31 describes outward beauty as “fading and passing” and it won’t last forever. Now, don’t get me wrong, I think it is important to take care of our appearance but that shouldn’t be our main focus.
Are you ready to dive into verse 4? Here we go! This verse has been a model for me my inward beauty thought my Christian walk. The Lord, through Paul, speaks of a woman who has incorruptible beauty, a gentle and quiet spirit which is precious to the Lord. Proverbs 31 continues after telling us that beauty is fading and passing but saying “but a women who fears the Lord, she shall be praised.” Our character or inward beauty will last forever! I desire to have character that mirrors 1 Peter 3:4, a gentle and quiet spirit and a hidden person of the heart. The beauty is described as “incorruptible” which means “that it will not dissolve” or “cannot be perverted.” This beauty will last us for our entire Christian walk!
Which verse are you pouring more time into? Is it into your outward beauty or your inward beauty?
Another aspect to inward beauty is my attire each day. Am I glorifying God and others with my body? Am I stumbling my brothers in Christ with my clothes?
Everyone is different on how what we are alright with wear but I want to give you a few tips that will help you dress modestly. These are questions for you to ask yourself. I have used these tips and they are wonderful!
Does my shirt show any cleavage?
Does my shirt hug my body tightly?
Is my shirt too short?
Does my stomach show when I raise my hands?
Are my bra straps showing?
Do my pants ride low that when I bend over you can see my underwear?
These are just some practical tips that I follow! I hope they help you as well! Sister, I will be praying for you as you work on the inward beauty that God has given to you!