Culture is ever changing and evolving. Remember the days where TV shows like I Love Lucy would not even show a married couple sleeping in the same bed together but instead they had separate beds. Well, our culture has come a long way since the early 50’s and it’s not a good change. It’s hard not to turn on a TV sitcom or reality show where the couple isn’t already having pre-marital sex or living together before marriage. Sadly, these are now considered normal.
There are three myths about purity that our culture has been lying to us and we have bought the lie; hook, line, and sinker. We have listened to the enemy’s whispers telling us we have gone too far to ever be pure again, that purity is a thing of the past, or that purity is something I could never have in my life. Darling, I have bought the lie just like you. I have listened to his lies for far too long. It’s time we listen to the truth found in the Bible and prepare ourselves for the enemy’s tactics.
If you have ever struggled with purity, which if we are honest with ourselves then we all have. This is for the woman who has bought into the lies of the culture. This is for the woman who wants to break free from the pains of the past and look into a brighter future. This is for the woman who desires to live in purity. This is for YOU! This is for every woman because we all struggle with purity and it’s a constant battle against believing the myths of purity.
- Purity is only physical
Having grown up in the church, I have attended my fair share of youth conferences on purity, received a purity ring what I was in Jr. High, and read countless books on purity. However, despite all the information I had received, I didn’t prepare myself for the battle of purity inside of my heart. I bought the lie the culture was selling me: Purity is only physical.
Purity is not just on the physical realm but also on the emotional, spiritual, and mental realms as well. Purity begins in the heart and then seeps into every other area in our life.
Have you ever heard this saying by Ralph Waldo Emerson: “Sow a thought and you reap an action; sow an act and you reap a habit; sow a habit and you reap a character; sow a character and you reap a destiny.”? Do you realize the depth of those words? Purity must start as a thought, then it will turn into an action, then into a habit and a character, and then you will have your destiny.
“Search me, O God, and know my heart; Try me, and know my anxieties; And see if there is any wicked way in me, And lead me in the way everlasting.” -Psalm 139:23-24
- Purity stops after you get married
Purity does not stop after you get married but rather it continues on and on for the rest of your life. If we said earlier, that purity begins in your heart and how it is not just physical but rather emotional, spiritual, and mental then why would it stop after you are married?
Purity is not just about being sexually pure before marriage but carries into your thoughts and actions. Our thoughts and actions are supposed to be pure as well. Only the Lord can help us to develop tactics to resist temptation and strive for purity. We cannot do it alone. Since purity is more than just the physical aspect, then when we are married, or if you are married already, it starts in your heart. Purity flows from the heart and then into every area of life, including marriage. Purity is a lifestyle and not just a short-term race.
If you are not practicing purity before marriage then how will you be able to practice purity after marriage? It is all about purity through your entire life! Purity is not a sprint but a lifelong marathon. Darling, keep running after purity! Keep chasing purity in every area of your life!
“Keep your heart with all diligence, for out of it spring the issues of life.” –Proverbs 4:23
- If you have sinned sexually, you can never be pure again
Darling, do not ever believe this lie! You are never beyond His forgiveness! Yes, you will have still have an inward battle inside of you telling you that you cannot receive forgiveness regarding past sins. Do not buy this lie!!
A friend of mine, before she was a believer, lived with her boyfriend when they were not married and they were sexually active together, before she ended the relationship after she became a Christian. When she became a Christian, this was one of the most difficult areas for her. She so desperately longed to be made pure again but she was no longer a virgin. She bought the enemy’s lies in believing that her past mistakes could not make her pure again. She believed there was no point to purity now. After asking the Lord for his help and forgiveness, she felt a huge burden lifted off of her shoulders. He had quietly spoken truth to her heart and she was free from the lies she had bought for so long.
You too can be freed from your past but you have to ask the Lord to make you whole again. Only through Him can you be made new in Christ!
“Therefore, if anyone is in Christ, he is a new creation; old things have passed away; behold, all things have become new.” -2 Corinthians 5:17